Every beginning teacher struggles with issues of "classroom management". I put the term in quotes, because I don't really like it. My philosophy, built up through various workshops, books, and experiences, is that what we are actually doing is building classroom relationships. When we build productive relationships (notice that I did not say positive relationships, because I fear that will be interpretted to mean that we must make sure our students like us), learning occurs in the classroom. And, that's what it is all about, isn't it ... the learning?
Here are some tips that I've found to be very helpful to me. I apologize in advance for taking other's ideas from the past years - it is not my intention to say that any of these ideas are my own.
1. A good lesson is the best way to build productive classroom relationships. A good lesson is well thought out, has a clear learning objective, and is organized. We have to make sure our instructions are clear, that students know what is expected of them, and the work is on their academic level (read more about Vygotsky's Zone of Proximal Development). When this is happening, students have no reason to act up or goof off. A good, clear lesson also shows students that we care about them and their learning, which leads to ...
2. Students need to know that we care about them and, because we care about them, have high expectations for their learning. We also need to be prepared to hold them to those expectations when needed. Students need to know when they are not living up to those expectations and that we believe in their abilities to always do better. They may not like it, but at the same time it will communicate that we care about them. There are other ways to show you care. Often, a student walks into my room obviously not feeling well - either physcially or emotionally. I'm always certain to privately ask them if they are okay. Most times, especially if it is emotional, they will say they are fine. But, I almost always see a student's face get a little "lighter" after I've asked. If students don't think that we care about them, they will revolt and not give us their attention or work.
3. We need to know our own personal "line" and communicate that line to the students. This comes through time and experience. We can't be on our students back about every little thing - especially when they are teenagers. The adage "Pick your battles" comes to mind. When deciding what "battles" to fight, we need to think about those things that we will notice and be willing to follow up on. For example, I know it is a common rule that students are not allowed to chew gum in class and I understand why. But, personally, I never, ever notice that a child is chewing gum unless they pop it in my face. So, it would be ill-advised for me to emphasize that rule in my classroom because it will not be enforced. Conversely, my school is a uniform school and I notice right away if a student is out of uniform in any way. Not only will I notice, but I'm more than willing to follow up on a student who is out of uniform until the problem is corrected. Emphasizing this rule is well-advised, because I can be sure that I will enforce it. Don't have rules you cannot or will not enforce to the end. This requires that we know ourselves the most.
4. When we communicate the line to our students, we have to make sure that we use the appropriate steps. These are the steps I use:
a. Ask politely and respectfully for the student to do the correct behavior. "Please sit down and get back to your work." This is crucial because most teenagers want to be treated like adults. I've found that most students will be respectful back, often saying "sorry" and doing exactly what I asked. I will say "Thank you" in return for the student complying.
b. If the student does not, I firmly remind them that I asked politely and I will not be asking again. My voice is more serious at this point and I'm sure NOT to say please. I don't often even get to this stage, but most other times this works successfully.
c. If the student does not still comply, I walk over to them, being sure that I'm getting the student's full attention and I give them a firm ultimatum. "Either you do what I asked politely or ___________" It is important that whatever fills in the blank is something I'm going to actually do if the student does not do what I asked AND that it is something meaningful to the student. Typically, any student who gets to this point, complies as soon as I start to walk over to them, because they know that I will do what I say if they don't. It is important that you clearly state the ultimatum and AS SOON AS the student does not comply, you do it. Don't give the student any more chances - they've already had enough chances if you've gotten to this point.
I had a student last year who tried to walk into my classroom with headphones on. I asked her politely to take it off. She did and said, "That's why I like you. You treat us with respect and don't yell at us." I said, "I yell at you all the time." She replied, "You yell at us when you need to - when we don't do what you ask. Other teachers - they yell at us because they can."
5. The policies of your school make all the difference. I'm lucky to be in a school that (for the most part) has its act together and backs the teachers up. None of this would work in a school that does not do that. If you are in that school, my advice is to find yourself a school that does. We, as teachers, can only be as good as the school we are in.
There are numerous other tips and I will save them for later posts. One last thing, though ... you can't change students' behavior. You can, though, change your own. Once I took my focus off trying to change the students and looked at how I could change my own behavior, I was able to build more productive classroom relationships.
Very good advice, and very well-written.
Actually, I think teachers who behave like you can overcome the disadvantages of a badly-run school. I've taught in schools like that, and when the good teachers closed their doors, it was they who prevailed.
Until they opened them again, unfortunately.
Posted by: NYC Educator | October 14, 2005 at 04:57 PM
Great article, I do many of the things you do. I like your "pick your battle" comment. I think I will use that pholosiphy a little more often after reading this article.
Posted by: chaz | October 15, 2005 at 09:04 PM
Thank your for your nice, informative blog! I especially enjoy this post, because as a starting teacher there is one class that TOTALLY drives me crazy. I believe I have tried anything, but so far I haven't been able to create a positive relationship with them. Especially step nr. 3, coming up with a good penalty and doing what you told them you would, is still a weak point in my 'classroom management'. looking forward to your next post on the subject!
Posted by: Frumteacher | January 30, 2007 at 07:00 AM
Tim: I definitely agree with your comment about a good lesson being important! But also, it is important to have the students involved and interactive in the lesson. ( Larivee, 2005). I also agree that we should be polite and respectful to students. (ascd.org) Yes, we should have high expectations for learning. (nncc.org) debby
Posted by: Debby | July 17, 2007 at 10:51 AM
I sub in an elementary school. I see so many teachers yelling at students. I don't really understand it because students don't behave differently afterwards. It is almost like they get yelled at so much that it has no effect on them. I've found it more effective for me to simply say, that is not appropriate behavior, please sit back down. I really enjoyed reading your thoughts. Number four backed up my feelings that you can ask students politely and respectfully to do something and have no more troubles.
Posted by: ajlyon | July 17, 2007 at 06:39 PM
I really believe that us teachers can change our own behaviors towards building more productive classroom relationships. For example, as teachers, we can change our approach to students' behavior by differentiating between discipline and punishment. Discipline is seen as a more positive approach in helping students become responsible, whereas punishment has a negative affect and results in students making excuses, blaming others, or denying what happened. Us teachers need to give reasonable consequences with the belief that students can be persuaded by principles of reason, justice, mutual consideration, fair play, and social responsibility. However, obtaining desirable student behavior is in large part dependent on the teacher's manner of delivery. The teacher's message should show that he/she trusts the student to make a choice, to act responsibly, and to learn from experience (Larrivee, 2005. pp.202-3). You have definitely taken a positive approach to discipline by politely and respectfully asking your student to correct his/her behavior.
Reference:
Larrivee, B. (2005). Authentic Classroom Management: Creating a Learning Community and Building Reflective Practice (2nd ed.). Boston: Pearson.
Posted by: cutimlen | July 18, 2007 at 10:42 PM
Your statement that you cannot change your students behavior, but you can change your own emphasizes an important point. When we strive to develop classroom relationships, we need to remember that a relationship involves at least two people, both of whose imput is important. My point being, don't forget that the students behavior is only half of the equation.
Posted by: MEC | July 18, 2007 at 11:27 PM
I really found your statments encouraging and well thought out. I'm going into my first year of teaching so I need all the advice I can get! One of the first things I will do with my class is go over the rules and consequences. It is important that students know what is expected of them and what will happen if they don't do it. As you pointed out it's also important to make your word your bond and do what you said you would do. Great Advice! Thanks.
Posted by: KJ | July 20, 2007 at 12:10 PM
I really liked these tips. I found them to be simple, straight forward, and useful. Many of them I have seen in other literature. I liked the way you use a hierarchy of requests/demands when students misbehave (www.iris.peabody.vanderbilt.edu). Showing respect and giving chances pays off. I also like that you emphasize that the consequence needs to be something you are prepared to follow up on and are in regards to repeated misbehavior (Authentic Classroom Management, Larrivee).
I liked how you stated that we need to first change our own behavior (rather than the student's directly). Ideally I think we need to challenge and show our students ways to take responsibility to change their own behaviors.
thanks
Posted by: lynn | July 21, 2007 at 12:01 AM
I really got a lot out of your statement about asking studnets politely. I think that is the key to growing relationships with students from the beginning of the school year. If we can manage our emotions in a way that we can talk to the studnets like human beings, and not like the animals that they sometimes act like, then we will have a chance to make a difference in their lives.
Posted by: DBean | July 22, 2007 at 09:17 PM
I liked that you broke it down into steps. The whole feeling of not being in control is hard and breaking down the process into manageable steps helps mediate that feeling.
Posted by: Amber Murphy | February 04, 2009 at 04:39 PM
I really enjoyed this article. I believe building positive student relationships is essential to success in the classroom. I have pride myself on doing such. It's amazing how few classroom discipline problems you have when you have created a meaningful relationship with your students. When I think back to my days as a public school student, the classes in which I behaved the best in were those classes in which the teacher and I had formed a relationhsip. He/she knew a little something about me or my family. They took time to get to know me personally. I didn't misbehave in these teachers' classes because I didn't want to disappoint them. It was those teachers failed to learn much more than my name, location in the seating chart and class grade that I seemed to misbehave for.
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